What Shining Possibilities Is All About

Rainie and Sammy Bear

I’ve packed a lot of life experience into 43 years! I married while still in high school, only to be divorced before my 20^th birthday. I joined the US Army, to the horror of my stay at home mom, who’d hoped I’d make babies and learn to make biscuits and gravy. I married again, not for love but stability, only to discover life without love is insufferable. I got my degree in Social Work by attending evening classes over six years while I worked full time. I abandoned a government job I’d been at for 8 years, a house, and all of my belongings that couldn’t fit into a Geo Storm to move to another state and live with a man I’d met only once.  Thirteen years later, I’ve never looked back and never been happier.

Taking risks can be…well…risky! But, I’ve learned to trust my intuition, to listen to that inner voice that speaks from love and for my highest good. When I listen to that voice, things don’t necessarily go the way I’d planned but things do end up serving me well. Despite the seeming insanity of my decision to quit my job, sign my half of the house over to my ex, and move 800 miles away, everything in my being told me I was on the right path. The experience taught me my most valuable lesson:  the smart thing to do is not always the right thing for you.

My family thought I should have battled it out to get my portion from the sale of the house. I should have gotten a truck and taken my furniture with me. I should have stayed with my ex and made it work because he was financially stable and reliable. I should have kept my government job because it provided a livable wage and I’d get a nice pension when I retired. I should, I should, I should!

I could no longer do the things I should. The “should” was slowly drowning me, cutting me off from my spirit, gasping for air, and longing to feel anything except disappointment, bitterness, and obligation.  I needed to “walk the earth”, as my youngest sister says. I needed to love and feel loved, I needed to breathe easy. I needed to feel supported, uplifted, in touch with my spirit. I needed to feel alive!

Driving away in my Geo Storm, clothes in garbage bags so more would fit, I had my dog and my freedom. With every mile, I felt my breath coming more easily. My muscles relaxed. My head felt clearer. I felt all of those things one feels when one is following one’s heart.

That is what my coaching business is all about. That is the feeling I want for my clients. I want the weights to lift away, the air to flow naturally, and I want my clients to know to their very core that they are doing exactly what they were meant to do.

We are all given challenges and gifts. Sometimes it takes those challenges to reveal our gifts. Sometimes we need someone to help us sort through those challenges to find the gifts. That’s what I enjoy doing – sifting through the rubble to find the treasure, shining a light on all of the possibilities.